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Building True Intimacy (with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith)

Mar 10, 2025

Matthew Raabsmith, a clinician and author, and Joanna Raabsmith, a licensed marriage and family therapist, share their journey of healing and rebuilding intimacy after facing sexual betrayal in their own marriage. They introduce the 'Intimacy Pyramid,' outlining the essential components for trust and connection. Listeners learn about the 'Honest Connection' tool, which facilitates deeper communication. Emphasizing self-awareness and safety, they offer invaluable insights on how couples can overcome betrayal and foster lasting love.

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Joanna Raabsmith

Matthew Raabsmith

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Quick takeaways

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith emphasize that honesty is foundational for establishing trust and safety, crucial for healing after betrayal.

The Intimacy Pyramid framework illustrates that developing skills like awareness and assertiveness enhances communication, fostering healthier relationships.

Deep dives

The Journey of Redemption

The episode shares the story of Matthew and Joanna Rapsmith, who overcame the challenges of Matthew's struggle with pornography and its impact on their marriage. They candidly discuss the pain of betrayal, the trauma it caused, and their dedication to rebuilding a stronger relationship. Through their experiences, they aim to provide hope and practical tools for other couples facing similar issues, emphasizing that healing is indeed possible. Their journey illustrates the critical shift from despair to a renewed sense of purpose in their marriage.

Intro

2min

Navigating Betrayal and Building Intimacy

18min

Navigating Trust and Safety After Betrayal

5min

Enhancing Relationship Intimacy with the Honest Connection Tool

4min

The Transformative Power of Healing in Relationships

3min

What are the building blocks of a healthy relationship? In this episode, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith reveal the "Intimacy Pyramid" of what is required for trust and intimacy—especially for couples healing from sexual betrayal. Get wisdom from two people who rebuilt their marriage after porn almost destroyed it.

Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are clinicians, speakers, and authors of the book Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time (paid link). They have over 20 years of combined experience in counseling, coaching, and guiding couples toward healing and transformation. Their mission is to help couples navigate the complexities of relational challenges, particularly in the aftermath of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, fostering deep restoration and growth.

Matthew is a Professional Certified Coach (ICF) with a background in pastoral leadership, while Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR practitioner, and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist through APSATS. Both hold Master of Divinity degrees and have served together on multiple church leadership teams. Currently, they co-lead their private practice, The Raabsmith Team, where they specialize in helping couples rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy.

Download the Raabsmiths' free check-in: The Honest Connection.

Get a copy of Building True Intimacy to dive into the Intimacy Pyramid.

Learn more and connect with Matthew and Joanna at raabsmithteam.com.

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