Slate Daily Feed How To! | Create ‘Marriage Rules’ as a Couple
Dec 23, 2025
Jackie Kelley, a social media creator and marriage rule expert, shares her practical communication tools aimed at couples, especially those navigating neurodivergence. She unpacks the challenges of cohabitation through Bonnie and Vince's differing approaches to household tasks. Jackie introduces her 'marriage rules,' emphasizing the importance of assigning tasks based on who cares most, setting concrete deadlines, and finding creative compromises. Her insights help couples enhance communication and foster positive relationships.
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Quick Engagement Wake-Up Call
- Jackie and her husband married soon after college and realized they'd never spent 72 hours together before marriage.
- They faced a wake-up call learning to consider each other's needs while living together in Arizona.
Masking Explains Post-Move Conflicts
- Jackie explains masking: people perform a socially acceptable version of themselves until they get comfortable.
- When the mask falls off, neurodivergent traits like prioritization differences surface in relationships.
Use A Shared Visual Task Board
- Use a visible shared system like a large whiteboard to list and prioritize tasks daily.
- Visual reminders force attention and help neurodivergent partners see and act on tasks.