Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

How to Self Discipline? (For People Pleasers/Learned Helplessness)

Jul 4, 2020

Dive into the nuances of self-discipline, especially for those who struggle with people-pleasing tendencies and learned helplessness. Discover how trauma influences willpower and emotional responses, and gain insights into the importance of kindness in self-talk. Explore the complexities of emotional intelligence and relationship dynamics, including the impact of childhood trauma. Learn practical approaches to healing the Inner Child and building emotional resilience while navigating the challenges posed by toxic relationships.

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Intro

00:00 • 21min

Navigating Emotional Responses and Improving Emotional Intelligence

20:50 • 3min

Building Willpower and Healing from Trauma

23:20 • 13min

Navigating Self-Talk and the Challenges of People Pleasing

35:51 • 9min

Understanding Emotional Complexity in Relationships

45:04 • 25min

Reflections on Self-Discipline and Mental Health Treatment

01:10:24 • 7min

What self-discipline really is and how to become more self-disciplined? How relevant it is in healing and overcoming narcissistic abuse and CPTSD?

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(00:35) The Truth About Self-discipline

(03:09) It's an Ethic Change That Needs to Happen

(04:17) Self-discipline in People With CPTSD & Toxic Superego

(07:18) Battling the Superego, Escaping Into Self-indulgence

(13:04) Spartan Life Coach Way of Kind Self-discipline

(16:12) Negotiating With ID (Inner Child)

||Q&A Section||

(21:12) "It's hard because I have this fight or flight response"

(21:54) "I don't understand what you mean by being sentimental?"

(22:42) "How do I up-level my emotional intelligence?"

(23:23) "What determines the amount of willpower we have as humans?"

(23:51) "Is sentimentality grieving over what could have been?"

(27:13) "How could I tell if I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship or I'm just having regular flashbacks?"

(32:23) "How do you start healing the Inner Child?"

(33:20) "I don't have many disciplined people in my life to look to for inspiration"

(35:43) "Could you elaborate on negotiating with ID?"

(37:07) "How can a people pleaser deal with controlling people?"

(39:49) "What if the shift to positive ID has caused me to be less driven to achieve?"

(40:42) "How do you practise discipline when you are used to pushing through, getting things done?"

(41:59) "Can you talk about trauma bonding?" (fetishist split about a person)

(50:33) "Any advice for talking back to your people pleasing instinct in managing episodes of depersonalization?"

(52:08) "How can you tell if it's codependency or your ego getting hurt?"

(54:38) "Is being single the best state to be in for a CPTSD afflicted individual?"

(56:50) "How do you find the motivation for self-care when it's so instinctual not to do so?" (learned helplessness)

(1:03:19) "Why is it so hard to sync your emotional intelligence to the intellectual knowledge?"

(1:07:11) "Why does that sound a bit like a cult?"

(1:08:01) Answering Short Questions

(1:10:55) "Would you recommend Ayahuasca as a treatment for flashback?"

(1:13:34) Answering Short Questions

(1:15:48) Goodbye & Invitation to a Free Course