The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 199: Scaffolding Relational Skills as Brain Skills with Eileen Devine

Nov 12, 2024

Eileen Devine, a licensed clinical social worker specializing in neuroimmune disorders, shares her insights on understanding the brain's role in behavior. She emphasizes that relational skills are brain-based abilities, urging parents to adopt empathy and set boundaries. The conversation delves into the nuances of parenting children with brain-based differences, the importance of collecting evidence to understand behaviors, and the need for community support. Devine also highlights her new podcast aimed at fostering connections for parents facing similar challenges.

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Intro

00:00 • 3min

Understanding Brain-Based Differences in Children

02:53 • 16min

Understanding Cognitive Skills in Child Development

19:21 • 5min

Understanding Attachment and Parenting

24:47 • 10min

Collecting Evidence for Understanding Child Behavior

35:02 • 4min

Navigating Parenting Challenges

39:02 • 23min

Launching a Supportive Podcast

01:02:02 • 3min

Connecting Parents through Community and Resources

01:05:27 • 4min

The brain is the brain is the brain. All behaviors have their origin in the brain. But for some behaviors, it is easy to lose sight of this important truth.

Behaviors that would be easy to label as manipulative or controlling or selfish just feel so personal! But if we can remember that even relational skills are brain-based skills, we can reclaim our empathy, set boundaries, and offer the scaffolding or accommodations necessary to help our child be successful.

In this episode, you’ll learn

How to break down relational skills as brain-based skills
How to scaffold or accommodate relational brain-based skills

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

NEW!!!! Brain-First Parenting Podcast! With Eileen Devine

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/relationalskills

Teaching kids about their owl, watchdog, and possum brain is one key piece of growing their owl brain and calming their watchdog and possum brain!

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