Love Life With Matthew Hussey 311: This Psychology Model Will Transform Your Love Life
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Aug 27, 2025 What if your past isn’t the reason you're stuck in love and life? This discussion dives into Adlerian psychology, suggesting that personal goals hold more power than past traumas. Explore how attachment theory impacts relationships, and discover the balance between acknowledging trauma and setting new aspirations. The conversation touches on breaking free from old patterns and facing emotional vulnerabilities, encouraging brave steps toward positive change. Get ready to rethink your approach to growth and connection!
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Goals, Not Trauma, Drive Behavior
- Adlerian psychology says your life is shaped by current goals, not by past trauma.
- Goals use past events as justifications, but they are the real drivers of behavior.
Blushing Protects The Fantasy
- A woman who crushes on a man blames blushing for not speaking.
- Adlerian view: she actually wants to avoid talking to preserve the fantasy and avoid rejection.
Avoiding Commitment Preserves Possibility
- Adler argues people avoid commitment to keep the possibility 'I could if I tried' open.
- Avoiding exposure to criticism becomes a strategy to dodge potential failure and rejection.
