Episode 465: Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman: Why Everyone's Playing Victim (And How to Stop)

Jul 8, 2025

01:16:22

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Are we living in a victim culture? Cognitive psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman thinks so - and his new book "Rise Above" is the antidote we desperately need.

In this Habits and Hustle episode, Scott and I dive into what separates those who rise above their circumstances from those who stay stuck. We discuss the difference between being victimized and having a victim mindset, explain why vulnerable narcissism is worse than grandiose narcissism, and reveal how "affirming therapy" might actually be keeping people trapped. Plus, Kaufman shares his sailboat model of self-actualization and why psychological flexibility is the key to resilience.

Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive psychologist, author, and podcaster who teaches at Columbia University. His research focuses on intelligence, creativity, and human potential. He's the author of several books including "Ungifted" and runs the Center for Human Potential coaching program.

What We Discuss:

(01:00) Self-Actualization and Overcoming Victim Mindset

(10:05) The Complexity of Narcissism Mindset

(14:37) Rise Above

(29:40) Understanding Victim Mindset and Toxic Activism

(37:49) Left-Wing Authoritarianism and Victim Mindset

(44:45) Therapy Trends and Personal Growth

(52:34) The Psychology of Polarization and Shame

(58:52) Cultivating Psychological Flexibility and Identity Evolution

(01:08:41) The Importance of Curiosity in Intelligence

…and more!

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