Women of Impact Are You Sleeping with a Narcissist? 13 Red Flags You Can’t Afford to Miss | Dr. Becky Spelman PT 1 (Fan Fav)
Nov 3, 2025
In this insightful discussion, Dr. Becky Spelman, a psychologist specializing in relationships, uncovers the intricate dynamics of dating narcissists. She reveals 13 red flags that signal a narcissistic partner and dives into how they manipulate intimacy, making sex a power play. Learn about the traumatic patterns of love-bombing and ghosting, and why recovering from such relationships often leaves individuals feeling empty. Dr. Spelman emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing when empathy is no longer warranted.
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Sex As A Power Play
- Narcissists use sex as a tool to gain control and boost their fragile ego instead of mutual intimacy.
- They either perform to 'achieve' your orgasm as a trophy or focus solely on their own pleasure, keeping you emotionally off-balance.
Idealize Then Discard Cycle
- Narcissists often start with intense pursuit and idealization to 'conquer' someone and then abruptly switch to cold distancing.
- That sudden withdrawal creates trauma-bonding and addictive craving for the initial attention and validation.
Shared Trauma Explains Attraction
- People drawn to narcissists often share early emotional neglect; both bring trauma into the dynamic.
- Understanding your childhood pattern helps explain attraction and prevents repeated victimhood.