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Beyond Success

Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (& How to Attract the Right Ones)

Feb 21, 2025
28:55

Most people chalk up their attraction problems to external sources: Maybe they think they need better strategies and skills. Or they believe that dating apps are against them. Or maybe it’s just that they’re unlucky.

Here’s the bad news:

If you've been struggling with attraction, confidence, or relationships, the problem isn't some external force working against you. The real issue is the unconscious patterns, your “Relationship Blueprint,” controlling your life. 

Worst part?

Since your mind creates your “Relationship Blueprint” early in your formative years, most people don’t even realize it’s pulling all the strings. And until you face these unconscious patterns, the same unconscious patterns will keep popping up and sabotaging your relationships. 

But I also have good news:

In today’s show, you’ll discover how your "Relationship Blueprint” unconsciously sabotages your relationships, how to rewire it, and why you’ll be a more calm, collected, and confident person after rewiring it. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

  • The brutal truth about why you keep repeating the same patterns that only lead to frustration and heartbreak (0:34) 

  • How your shadow twists your fears, insecurities, and anger into a toxic soup in your subconscious that sabotages relationships (and why you must retake control of your shadow for relationship success) (3:34) 

  • The “Relationship Blueprint” that’s been wired into your mind since childhood that explains every adult relationship you’ve been in (and how to rewire it) (8:51) 

  • Why outsourcing your confidence to external validation works as a mask, but cripples your true self-esteem (17:13) 

  • The 4-step healing and transformation process that rewires your “Relationship Blueprint” (23:52) 

 

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

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