Sex for Saints Episode 393 - The Dangerous Equation: Why Sex ≠ Love
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Oct 31, 2025 The podcast explores the damaging belief that sex equals love, highlighting how this mindset harms relationships. It discusses societal influences on men equating intimacy with affection and challenges the narrative propagated by media. Amanda emphasizes the importance of recognizing diverse expressions of love beyond the bedroom and encourages listeners to shift their focus from being loved to showing love. Practical tools are provided to facilitate more authentic connections, ultimately freeing both love and desire from unrealistic pressures.
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Sex Is Not Equivalent To Love
- Many people equate sex with love, turning sexual consent into proof of affection.
- Amanda Lauder explains this belief causes unnecessary pain and misunderstanding in relationships.
Mark's Misread Rejection
- Mark felt rejected after his wife declined sex three times despite her caregiving stressors.
- Amanda uses this example to show how external pressures, not love, explained her refusals.
Socialization Shapes Sexual Signals
- Men are often socialized to express connection physically rather than verbally.
- Amanda notes cultural and developmental patterns make sex feel like the primary love pathway for many men.