Guest Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and Chief Science Advisor at Match.com, talks about the impact of dating apps and the expansion of choice. They also discuss the role of technology in dating, the impact of swiping on dating apps, and shifting attitudes towards love and relationships.
Dating apps have increased the options for meeting people but can also lead to cognitive overload and decision difficulties.
The brain systems for attraction and love remain constant across cultures and sexual orientations, driven by hormones and survival mechanisms.
Deep dives
How dating apps provide expanded options but too many choices can be a problem
Dating apps have opened up new possibilities for queer individuals, older people, and those with limited access to meeting people offline. However, the expansion of choice can also lead to cognitive overload and make it difficult to make decisions. Some dating apps even limit users from swiping endlessly, recognizing the need to truncate the number of options. This exponential increase in options can be overwhelming for users, highlighting the importance of taking breaks, avoiding binge-swiping, and focusing on reasons to say yes instead of no.
The biological basis of love and attraction remains unchanged
Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher emphasizes that our brain's systems for sex drive, romantic love, and attachment have remained unchanged over time. These systems, driven by hormones and chemicals like testosterone, dopamine, and oxytocin, are basic survival mechanisms that drive us to form partnerships and propagate our DNA into the future. Despite cultural changes, the fundamental brain systems for attraction and love remain constant across cultures and sexual orientations.
Personality types and compatibility in relationships
Helen Fisher's research on the brain and personality traits has identified four primary brain systems and corresponding personality types: explorers, builders, directors, and negotiators. Explorers and builders tend to be attracted to individuals similar to themselves, seeking energy, curiosity, and creativity or traditional values and respect for authority. On the other hand, directors and negotiators often attract opposites. High-testosterone individuals (directors) seek high-estrogen individuals (negotiators), creating a balance between analytical, decisive traits and intuitive, trusting qualities.
The influence of technology on modern dating and relationships
While online dating platforms offer convenience and opportunity to meet new people, they also come with drawbacks. These include the potential exposure of personal data, heightened feelings of rejection based on appearance, and the inclination to compare oneself to enhanced online profiles. Dating apps are not the sole factor contributing to relationship success or failure. The role of technology is dual-use, and its impact varies depending on individuals and how they navigate the online dating space.
Online dating has changed the way we approach and pursue relationships. Like so much in modern life, potential partners are at the mercy of an algorithm that decides who we interact with. But has technology actually changed what we’re looking for? Can attraction and desire be predicted? Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and Chief Science Advisor at Match.com, has been on the front lines of the clash between a centuries-old phenomenon and relatively new technology. In this episode, she talks to CNN Chief Medical Correspondent Dr. Sanjay Gupta about what has and hasn’t changed about the dating brain.