Exploring the delicate balance between humility and self-loathing, with insights from a counseling perspective. The importance of self-esteem, self-care, and self-perception in understanding these concepts. Highlighting the influence of God's voice in our lives and the upcoming inspirational lunch event at the Gospel Coalition Women's Conference.
Building relationships on empathy, understanding, and curiosity fosters humility and improves connections.
Parental balance of self-awareness, acknowledging children's needs, and modeling repentance promotes humility in family dynamics.
Practicing simplicity, listening, and valuing individual complexities cultivates humility in counseling and relationships.
Deep dives
Importance of Humility in Relationships
Centering relationships on oneself can lead to self-loathing and conflicts. Understanding others, being curious about them, and showing empathy can foster humility and improve relationships. Communicating less about oneself in conversations and focusing on serving others also facilitates humility in relationships.
Balancing Self-Awareness and Love for Children
Parents balance self-awareness and love by acknowledging their children's gifts, talents, weaknesses, needs, and limitations. Repentance and demonstrating the ability to celebrate ordinary moments instill humility in children. Parental repentance and a focus on Jesus' love and grace create a home marked by repentance and growth in humility.
Cultivating Humility Through Simplification
In counseling and parenting, simplicity and understanding help foster humility. Simplifying conversations by finding one word that captures experiences can lead to true connection. Slowing down, listening, and valuing individuals for their complexities cultivate humility and demonstrate genuine care.
Resources for Growth in Humility
Recommended resources for understanding and developing humility include 'How Sanctification Works' by David Powlison, 'The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness' by Tim Keller, and Todd Stride's journal article 'Self-Hatred and the Loving Voice of God'. 'The Prodigal God' by Tim Keller is also suggested for understanding how religious backgrounds can influence humility.
Encouraging Growth through Repentance and Example
Modeling repentance, celebrating ordinary moments, valuing simplicity, and focusing on Jesus' love and grace are vital for encouraging humility in relationships and personal growth. Repentance serves as a powerful example that invites others to turn towards Jesus and experience His love and forgiveness.
Cultivating Humility by Understanding Others
Understanding, curiosity, and empathy in relationships lead to humility by shifting the focus from oneself to serving and loving others. Celebrating ordinary moments, modeling repentance, valuing simplicity, and focusing on Jesus' love foster humility in interactions and self-awareness in parenting.
On this episode of This vs. That, we welcome back Jonathan Holmes, executive director at Fieldstone Counseling. Together, we explore the complex topic of humility versus self-loathing. We examine how these two concepts can often be confused and how this issue frequently arises in counseling.
Jonathan offers insightful responses to challenging questions about self-esteem, self-care, and humility, allowing us to comprehend the nuanced differences between self-loathing and true humility. We also discuss the influence of self-perception on our experiences and the importance of focusing on God's voice in our lives.
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We're thrilled to announce an exciting event held in partnership between Anchored Hope and Fieldstone Counseling. On June 21st of this year, we'll be hosting an exclusive lunch at the Gospel Coalition Women's Conference in Indianapolis, Indiana, featuring two of our dear friends, Michael Keller and Ed Welch.
Michael and Ed will be sharing their unique perspectives on navigating the challenges that we face, both at home, in our relationships, and in the world with the wisdom of Christ. I hope that you'll make plans to join us at this event. Space is limited, so please register as soon as possible. All registrants will receive a boxed lunch, access to the event, as well as a complimentary book from P&R Publishing.
This vs. That is a podcast of Anchored Hope. Anchored Hope provides practical help to those hurting by anchoring their hope in Jesus and helping others gain a better understanding of his promises. We offer reputable, biblical counsel to those suffering or experiencing difficult seasons. Our counselors are highly trained and bring a vast experience in addressing the various issues of life. To meet with a counselor, visit anchoredhope.co and schedule an appointment today.
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