145: From a 25-Year Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess: Breaking the Rut with Dr. Alisa Kriegel

Nov 6, 2025

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What happens when a psychologist in a 25-year sexless marriage decides she’s done living without desire?

This week,Dr. Alisa Kriegel joins Elle and Vee to share her raw, transformative journey from disconnection to deep erotic empowerment — the story behind her upcoming memoir From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess.

We talk about:

How up to 40% of marriages are sexless — and why no one wants to admit it
The power of communication, curiosity, and skin-to-skin contact in rekindling intimacy
The truth about genital fit and why “one size fits all” is a myth
The healing that comes when you finally feel desired again
Using dating and non-monogamy as tools for self-discovery and growth
Why becoming a “sex goddess” is about owning your body, your boundaries, and your pleasure

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your desire, trapped in routine, or unsure how to find your way back to pleasure — this episode will remind you that it’s never too late to reclaim your erotic energy.

CHAPTERS

Introduction to Alisa Kriegel (00:00)

Sexlessness in Relationships: How It’s defined (3:46)

Prioritizing Intimacy (5:37)

The Sexless Marriage (14:47)

Self-Discovery through Online Dating and into Swinging (19:43)

The Worst One Night Stand Experience (25:11)

Below Average, Average and Slightly Above Average Cocks (27:30)

What is Genital Fit? Kama Sutra (30:41)

Understanding Body Changes and Sexuality (32:41)

Sex First Mentality (36:40)

What is a Sex Goddess (39:06)

Dating to Learn Revelations Desire and the False Emotional Protection of Dating Men In Relationships (47:36)

Men Love Pussy (56:20)

Can Someone Else’s Orgasm Trigger Your Orgasm Without Any Manual Stimulation? (59:53)

A List for a Relationship Blueprint: Manifesting Your Partner (01:03:32)

The Problem with Traditional Dating (01:07:18)

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🎙️ Guest Info

Dr. Alisa Kriegel
Psychologist • Author • Sex & Relationship Expert
📖 Book: From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess — available November 4, 2025
🎧 Podcast: Let’s Talk About Sex, Really
🌐 Website: alisakriegel.com
📸 Instagram: @alisakriegelauthor

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