Sex, Love and Intimacy as Neurodivergent Women with Sara-Louise Ackrill & Bontle Senne

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Jun 25, 2025

Join AuDHD authors Sara-Louise Ackrill, a therapist and founder of Wired Differently, and Bontle Senne, a sex coach, as they explore intimacy from a neurodivergent perspective. They boldly discuss the impact of masking and people-pleasing on relationships, emphasizing the importance of psychological safety and self-advocacy. The conversation highlights how sensory sensitivity influences intimacy and the necessity of candid communication. With insights on navigating love and understanding one’s desires, they empower listeners to celebrate their unique experiences.

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INSIGHT

Origins of ND Lovers Club Book

Years of personal pain and expertise motivated Sarah-Louise and Bontle to write together.
Their collaboration grew organically from a shared vision to address neurodivergent sexuality and relationships.

ADVICE

Advocate to Prevent Burnout

Neurodivergent women must advocate for their needs to avoid burnout from masking and people pleasing.
Respect your body’s needs, and understand dopamine and impulsivity influence sexual decisions.

ADVICE

Communicate Sensory Needs Honestly

Share sensory and sexual preferences openly using tools like yes/no forms.
Prioritize non-sexual touch to rebuild intimacy and reduce pressure in sexual relationships.

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Do you notice yourself falling into patterns of people pleasing, masking, putting our partner’s needs first when it comes to sexual desires, sensory needs, intimacy, and relationships?

In this episode, I sit down with AuDHD authors and advocates Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill for a validating, honest, and deeply important discussion about what it means to connect with others when you’re still learning to connect with yourself.

Whether you're exploring sex and relationships post-diagnosis or simply trying to better understand yourself, this episode is a reminder that you're allowed to have preferences, want to explore, and believe that your needs and desires are every bit as valid as anyone else’s.

What You'll Learn:

How masking, people pleasing, and putting your needs last can quietly erode intimacy.
Why it’s valid and vital to talk about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you need when it comes to sex.
The impact of sensory sensitivity on sex, and how to advocate for your body and boundaries.
What psychological safety in a relationship really means for neurodivergent people.
When it's time to walk away from a relationship that doesn't understand or honour your neurodivergence.
The incredible traits of empathy, excitement, passion, amongst others, that we bring to relationships and why that deserves to be recognised and celebrated
How self-discovery, including late diagnosis and life transitions like menopause, can shape your romantic life
Tools for building mutual understanding, honest communication, and a relationship that helps both people grow.

You can connect with Sara-Louise and Bonne via their websites below and find their book, ND lovers [here].

Sara-Louise's website [here]
Bonne's website [here]

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Preorder my book: The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit [here].
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Find my popular ADHD webinars and resources on my website [here].
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Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.

Links referenced in this episode:

ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit