In this book, Esther Perel explores the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, arguing that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor can be antithetical to erotic desire. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel uses case studies and lively discussions to demonstrate how more exciting, playful, and poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining independence, mystery, and the space between self and other to sustain desire.
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Do you notice yourself falling into patterns of people pleasing, masking, putting our partner’s needs first when it comes to sexual desires, sensory needs, intimacy, and relationships?
In this episode, I sit down with AuDHD authors and advocates Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill for a validating, honest, and deeply important discussion about what it means to connect with others when you’re still learning to connect with yourself.
Whether you're exploring sex and relationships post-diagnosis or simply trying to better understand yourself, this episode is a reminder that you're allowed to have preferences, want to explore, and believe that your needs and desires are every bit as valid as anyone else’s.
What You'll Learn:
- How masking, people pleasing, and putting your needs last can quietly erode intimacy.
- Why it’s valid and vital to talk about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you need when it comes to sex.
- The impact of sensory sensitivity on sex, and how to advocate for your body and boundaries.
- What psychological safety in a relationship really means for neurodivergent people.
- When it's time to walk away from a relationship that doesn't understand or honour your neurodivergence.
- The incredible traits of empathy, excitement, passion, amongst others, that we bring to relationships and why that deserves to be recognised and celebrated
- How self-discovery, including late diagnosis and life transitions like menopause, can shape your romantic life
- Tools for building mutual understanding, honest communication, and a relationship that helps both people grow.
You can connect with Sara-Louise and Bonne via their websites below and find their book, ND lovers [here].
- Sara-Louise's website [here]
- Bonne's website [here]
Links and Resources:
- Missed our ADHD Women’s Summer Series? Get the workshops on demand [here].
- Next ADHD Wellbeing Workshop: A bonus Q&A to ask me anything about ADHD and my new book! - July 8th 24th @1.30pm. Book [here].
- Preorder my book: The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit [here].
- Join the Waitlist for my new ADHD community-first membership launching in September! Get exclusive founding offers [here].
- Find my popular ADHD webinars and resources on my website [here].
- Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod
- Follow me on Instagram: @kate_moryoussef
Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.
Links referenced in this episode:
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