The Dildorks Started From the Bottom
Jan 15, 2020
The hosts dive deep into the often-overlooked skills of bottoming in the kink community. They explore the complex dynamics of topping and bottoming, discussing the relationship between pain and pleasure. Key topics include effective communication strategies, the art of dirty talk, and coping mechanisms for pain. The conversation emphasizes trust and self-awareness, illuminating the emotional aspects of BDSM. They even touch on the humor of navigating bisexuality, making for an engaging and enlightening listen.
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Topping vs Dominance Defined
- Topping and bottoming involve physical actions, while domination and submission relate to control and power in a scene.
- They often align but can be mixed, such as being a dominant bottom.
Why Bottoming Skills Are Undervalued
- Bottoming skills are underrecognized because they are intangible and less visible compared to topping skills.
- Many perceive bottoming as passive, yet it involves active pain tolerance and psychological skills.
Misconceptions About Masochists
- Kate dated a dom whose partner had algalagnia, a condition where pain is experienced as pleasure.
- This highlighted misconceptions that all masochists must have this condition, causing feelings of inadequacy.