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The Psychology of your 20s

134. The psychology behind the "ick"

Oct 13, 2023
32:12
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This podcast explores the psychology behind the 'ick' in relationships and why it can immediately kill attraction. It discusses the links to intuition, emotional unavailability, and rejection sensitivity. It also explores how we can use the 'ick' to detach from people who may not be good for us. Listen now!
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Quick takeaways

  • The 'ick' is a gut reaction that can cause a sudden loss of romantic or sexual interest in someone based on seemingly insignificant behaviors, reflecting compatibility and value differences.
  • The 'ick' can be a self-defensive mechanism or a manifestation of intuition, protecting against relationship failure or indicating potential lack of long-term compatibility, but it can also stem from learned mental connections and excessive pickiness or judgmental attitudes.

Deep dives

Understanding the Phenomenon of Getting the Ick

The podcast explores the concept of getting the 'ick,' which refers to quickly losing romantic or sexual interest in someone due to a specific behavior or event that turns you off. This repulsion is often a gut reaction that makes you feel like you can no longer continue the relationship, even if the reason for the ick seems insignificant. The ick can be justified in cases where the behavior reflects deeper personality or value issues. However, it often stems from relatively harmless and random quirks. The podcast categorizes icks into behavioral, physical, and emotional categories, emphasizing the importance of paying attention to emotional icks that may reveal compatibility and value differences.

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