How an ASD Diagnosis Began to Transform Their 24 Year Marriage

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Nov 13, 2021

A transformative journey unfolds as Alina navigates her 24-year marriage after her husband's recent ASD diagnosis. She shares how understanding neurodiversity has clarified longstanding communication barriers, leading to forgiveness and healthier dialogue. The couple's experience highlights the challenges and joys of raising five sons, emphasizing teamwork and structure. Alina's reflections reveal the profound impact of empathy and patience in cultivating a thriving partnership amid the complexities of neurodiversity.

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ANECDOTE

Finding Neurodiverse Love

Alina found the Neurodiverse Love podcast while searching for answers about her struggling 24-year marriage.
Hearing other women share similar stories gave her hope and validation.

ANECDOTE

Initial Attraction

Alina was initially drawn to her husband's kindness, maturity, and dedication to their relationship.
She now recognizes some early red flags in light of his autism diagnosis.

INSIGHT

Challenges After Children

The couple's challenges intensified after having children, as it required more teamwork and communication.
Alina initially treated her husband as neurotypical, leading to misunderstandings.

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Alina and her husband have been married for 24 years and have 5 sons. Throughout their marriage, they have experienced lots of challenges that other couples weren't having. However, it wasn't until her husband was diagnosed, earlier this year, with Autism Spectrum Disorder, that those challenges began to make sense. When Alina found the "Neurodiverse Love" podcast she realized she was not alone and her thinking and the way she communicated with her husband began to change. Alina shares openly and honestly about the journey she is on to understand how to thrive in her marriage. During the past few months, she has asked her husband for forgiveness for the way she has communicated with him and has learned healthier ways to communicate. She is beginning to understand the ways in which their brains are wired differently and she and her husband are working together to make their marriage thrive. Understanding why there had been so many arguments, misunderstandings and misinterpretations, and finding ways to appreciate and value each other again, has begun to transform Alina's marriage. She feels tremendous hope for the future and is excited to spend the rest of her life with her very kind husband. Whether you are the autistic partner or the allistic partner, you will find some hope, clarity and understanding in this episode. When we know better, we can "choose" to do better and Alina is proof of that!

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