PsycHacks Episode 458: Why dating advice is terrible (half right is all wrong)
Aug 26, 2024
Conventional dating advice often misses the mark by ignoring economic and psychological factors. The discussion critiques popular notions, shedding light on the complexities of the sexual marketplace. It emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and the role of attractiveness in dating dynamics. Inner qualities like compatibility are highlighted, yet the advantages of being physically appealing are acknowledged. A nuanced approach offers practical strategies for navigating modern relationships more effectively.
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Dating Advice vs. Reality
- Most dating advice is ineffective because it's based on how people wish dating was, not reality.
- Accepting the reality of dating, however difficult, leads to greater relationship success.
Dual Nature of Relationships
- Relationships have two core components: perception (psychological) and value (economic).
- Most dating advice fails by focusing on only one of these aspects.
Overemphasis on Psychology
- Most dating advice overemphasizes the psychological (trauma, self-worth) while ignoring economic factors.
- Even highly emotionally intelligent people can struggle in dating if they're unattractive.