Episode 369: All About Orgasms

Feb 7, 2025

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Let’s talk about orgasms! In today’s episode, we’re diving into a lot of interesting questions surrounding the big O. For example, who is responsible for your orgasm during sex: your partner or you? Also, is it ever OK to fake an orgasm? Additionally, we’ll explore strategies for having more orgasms if this is something you struggle with, as well as whether you can learn to be multiply-orgasmic.

My guest is Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, an award-winning Associate Professor at Emory University’s Rollins School of Public Health, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. With over 70 published articles, Dr. Hargons has made substantial contributions to the field. Her debut book titled, Good Sex, is now in print.

Some of the topics we address in this episode include:

Are orgasms something that our partners “give” us?
What do porn and popular media get wrong about how orgasms are portrayed?
What are the most common reasons why people fake orgasms?
How are orgasms defined scientifically?
The goal of closing the orgasm gap is to achieve orgasm equity. But what does orgasm equity actually look like?

You can check out Candice’s website to learn more about her work.

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