At Peace Parents Podcast

Ep. 119 - Life-Changing Impacts (for all) By Shifting How They Parented Their PDA Child

Jul 2, 2025
Caroline Thor, a KonMari consultant and Paradigm Shift Program alumna, discusses her transformative parenting journey with her son who has Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). She shares how adjusting her approach has improved family dynamics and her professional life. Caroline emphasizes the crucial role of community support and understanding in navigating the emotional challenges of parenting. Additionally, she introduces the flexibility of the KonMari method, offering practical insights on decluttering with compassion while prioritizing joy and connection.
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ANECDOTE

Early Chaos And Misdiagnosis

  • Caroline describes escalating household conflict and meltdowns from age three through COVID, culminating in burnout and an autism diagnosis that didn't fully fit.
  • She felt terrified, isolated, and convinced she was causing the reactions until she later learned about PDA.
ANECDOTE

Finding PDA Felt Like Relief

  • Caroline found PDA via a friend's suggestion and the PDA Society page, which produced an immediate family recognition.
  • Discovering PDA brought immense relief and connection through online communities and Casey's podcast.
ADVICE

Change Language Before Rules

  • Prioritize changing your own language and phrasing to be non-demanding; this takes persistent practice.
  • Focus less on rigid rules and more on rephrasing requests to reduce escalation.
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