Big Think Sex education has left autistic people—and many others—behind | Emily Nagoski
Aug 28, 2025
Emily Nagoski, a prominent sex educator, tackles the shortcomings of traditional sex education and its neglect of neurodivergent individuals. She emphasizes the necessity of recognizing how sensory sensitivities and social dynamics uniquely shape their sexual experiences. Nagoski advocates for inclusive approaches, discussing the impact of BDSM practices that align with autistic preferences. This conversation highlights the importance of tailored education to ensure everyone, especially neurodivergent individuals, can explore intimacy effectively and enjoyably.
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Three Core Autism Differences Matter For Sex
- Autism includes sensory, social, and repetitive-behavior differences that shape sexual experience.
- These differences mean neurodivergent sexual needs can diverge substantially from neurotypical norms.
Focus Sex Ed On Sensation Not Porn
- Teach people to notice sensations rather than imitate pornographic behaviors.
- Encourage exploration of what actually feels good instead of copying performances.
Sensory Sensitivities Change Sexual Preferences
- Sensory sensitivities can make light touch aversive and deep pressure preferred during sex.
- Sensory overload can cause meltdowns or shutdowns, interrupting sexual encounters.