Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties Episode 47: A Bit of a Pickle
Jun 10, 2019
In this engaging discussion, the hosts dive into reclaiming personal autonomy and the significance of self-advocacy. They explore the fine line between healthy distraction and numbing behaviors, while emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries post-breakup. The risks of rebound sex are highlighted, along with the nuanced decision of announcing breakups on social media. Through listener letters, they tackle tough topics like emotional abuse, control tactics, and communication mismatches, ultimately encouraging listeners to prioritize their happiness and envision healthier relationships.
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Immediate Post-Breakup Aftercare
- In the first 72 hours after a breakup, prioritize survival: seek camaraderie, distraction, and comfort rather than isolation.
- Avoid texting your ex, social media, and risky rebound behaviors that will amplify loneliness later.
Use Distraction Intentionally
- Allow temporary escapes (food, friends, TV) but plan to do the head-and-heart work afterward.
- Expect the distraction to fail eventually and prepare for the emotional fallout.
Ask For A Cooling-Off Period
- If you want to stay friends after a breakup, ask for a break first so you can form new associations.
- Say you need time off to avoid pseudo-breakups that keep old patterns alive.
