5 Different Types of People We Fall in Love With & Why Seeking External Validation is Negatively Impacting You (Special Episode)
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Mar 31, 2023
Delve into the intriguing dynamics of love as different personality types come into focus. Explore how early experiences and parental influences shape our romantic choices. Discover the concept of karma and its lasting impact on relationships. The podcast also introduces the idea of 'Exit Interviews' for personal growth and reflection on past partners. With engaging stories and insights, listeners are encouraged to confront their patterns and expectations in love, aiming for healthier connections.
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Emmett and Johnny
Emmett felt an instant connection with Johnny, but Johnny broke up with him after three months.
This was Emmett's third similar experience, leading him to believe he had bad relationship karma.
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Karma's True Meaning
Karma is the law of cause and effect, not just punishment for bad deeds.
It's about the mindset behind decisions and learning from consequences to make better choices.
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Breaking Karmic Cycles
Reflect on past relationship patterns to understand how early impressions shape your choices.
Consciously choose new ways to break negative cycles.
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This book provides a new way to understand relationships by analyzing four broad, biologically-based styles of thinking and behaving linked with the dopamine, serotonin, testosterone, and estrogen systems in the brain. Based on her pioneering work and data from over 28,000 individuals, Fisher explains how these personality types influence who we love and how to use this knowledge to build and sustain happy long-term relationships. The book includes a scientifically developed questionnaire, the Fisher Temperament Inventory, which has been validated by brain scanning experiments and used by millions worldwide.
A General Theory of Love
Sir Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini and Richard Lannon
Eight Rules of Love
How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go
Jay Shetty
In 'Eight Rules of Love', Jay Shetty offers a comprehensive guide to navigating every stage of romance, from first dates to breakups. The book emphasizes the importance of self-love, mutual growth, and intentional effort in relationships. It provides practical advice and exercises inspired by ancient Vedic principles and modern psychology.
Today, I am going to share with you another snippet from my latest book, 8 Rules of Love. This time, we will talk about karma. Rule #2: Don’t Ignore Your Karma - in this chapter we take a look at how first and early impressions on love shape our future relationship choices, the different personality types we get drawn to and why, the tendency to look for validation from others when seeking love, and how we should learn from our past relationships.
You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
01:17 Rule #2: Don’t Ignore Your Karma
05:04 The Karma Cycle - From the time we are born, choices are made for us.
07:36 Karma and Relationships - This is how our early impressions affect our future choices
12:01 Our expectations and desires around relationships are shaped after our earliest experiences of love
17:34 Parental Gifts and Gaps - The four pillars that help us establish relationship dynamics
24:54 No matter how imperfect the situation we were born into, we can learn from our karma
28:29 Emotional Support - What kind of love and emotional support your parents have given you?
31:00 We are hardwired to look outward to others for validation and satisfaction
35:25 Scenemtic images of love set the standard for how love should occur and make us feel we aren’t achieving the level of romance that we should
40:35 First Love - Our ideas of love are also shaped by our first loves
44:15 Type #1: The Rebel - Adventure and mystery does not necessarily give way to loyalty and responsibility
45:32 Type #2: The Chase - Getting drawn to someone who isn’t emotionally available
48:08 Type #3: The Project - You’re not equals and you’re investing more in the relationship
53:09 When you date someone who sleeps around and doesn’t want to commit
55:31 The Opulent One: If someone is attractive we tend to assign positive attributes to them
58:55 Reflect and learn from a past relationship
01: What approach do you use to attract someone?
01:08:33 What you want from someone else, first give to yourself
On Purpose with Jay Shetty 
