That Relationship Show Betrayals in Relationships
May 15, 2021
Lisa Palmer-Olsen, an EFT trainer and founder of the Emotionally Focused Couples Training Institute, shares her insights on healing after betrayal. She discusses the emotional fallout of betrayals, emphasizing the importance of therapist self-awareness. The conversation dives into the complexities of deception, the varying experiences of betrayal among partners, and the role of open communication in rebuilding trust. Lisa also touches on parental betrayals, illustrated through celebrity examples, and offers hope for recovery in relationships.
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Betrayal As Cumulative Injury
- Betrayals are often multiple, cumulative emotional events, not single incidents.
- Treating them as a series explains persistent, deep wounds that resist single-step repairs.
Let The Injured Partner Define It
- Lisa emphasizes couples must define betrayal together but clinicians must validate the injured partner's experience.
- A cohesive emotional narrative is required before repair can begin.
Burned-Down House Image
- Lisa Palmer-Olsen describes feeling like her house was burned down after repeated emotional betrayals in her marriage.
- She visualized being wounded and needing someone to acknowledge and rescue her, not being told to "buy a new house."
