Self-pres blind individuals rely heavily on the attention and validation of others for self-regulation.
Social sexual individuals engage in excessive display to fit in, be seen as cool, and attract attention, but it may lack depth and substance.
Sexual social individuals create immediate and intense connections with others, but these connections may lack a solid foundation and genuine intimacy.
Deep dives
Self-pres blind stacking and dependency on others
Self-pres blind individuals tend to rely heavily on the attention and validation of others for self-regulation. They may come off as clingy or overwhelming, constantly seeking the presence and engagement of others to feel grounded and validated. Without a strong sense of self-care and self-regulation, they struggle to take care of their physical and emotional well-being, often prioritizing the needs and attention of others over their own.
Social sexual display and superficiality
Social sexual individuals are known for their flamboyant and attention-seeking behavior. They often engage in excessive display, whether it be through fashion, regalia, or social identities. This display is often driven by a desire to fit in, be seen as cool or popular, and attract attention from others. However, this display may lack depth and substance, focusing more on superficial trends and appearances rather than genuine connection or self-expression.
The allure and intensity of sexual social bonding
Sexual social individuals have a knack for creating immediate and intense connections with others. They exude a vibrant energy and can quickly establish a sense of chemistry and intimacy. However, these connections may not always have a solid foundation and may rely on the intensity of the moment rather than a deep understanding of the other person. The allure of sexual social bonding lies in the ability to create an exciting and passionate bond, although it may struggle to deliver lasting substance or genuine intimacy.
The importance of self-prez and the challenges faced by self-prez blinds
Self-prez is described as an energy that emanates from someone who is grounded and has a sense of self. It helps with decision-making, goal-setting, and understanding one's capacities. However, blind individuals with self-prez can struggle to make long-term choices and may lack direction. They may rely on others for opportunities and can feel interchangeable in their relationships and interests.
The challenges faced by sexual-social and self-prez blinds in relationships
Sexual-social individuals are described as being attracted to the chemistry and connection in relationships, but they often lack the ability to ground these feelings in practicality and sustainability. This can lead to a sense of interchangeability in their relationships. On the other hand, self-prez blinds may struggle to maintain dependable connections and may have difficulty keeping track of conversations and boundaries. Their actions may not align with the love and affection they claim to feel for someone.
We’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram.
— (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people
— (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself
— (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot for one’s limitations
— (34:18) Sp-blinds identifying with their capacity to be affected by others
— (37:30) Sp blinds still stuck in high school / connection and chemistry without animal reality
— (41:58) Slippery conversational amnesia
— (43:47) Hobosexuals and so/sx frivolous bling display / personality as a juicy social ornament
— (52:10) Social activism but make it cool / best friends way too fast
— (54:57) sx/so mist is just mist / catfish lovebombers
— (58:43) DG’s compatibility with sx/so and being stuck in yearning / love in the air without a foundation to grow
— (1:03:42) sx/so bimbofication
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