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Beyond Success

How to Grow from Anxious or Avoidant to Secure Attachment in Relationships

Nov 1, 2024
38:10

Your earliest relationships when you were a child can significantly impact your relationships as an adult. 

How? 

Well, when you’re young, you develop one of four attachment styles that can make or break your relationships today. The problem is, only one of these attachment styles set you up for a long, thriving relationship. While the other three are the culprits behind why you’ve sabotaged past relationships. 

That’s the bad news. 

The good news?

It’s possible to break free from a self-destructive attachment style and instead learn the skills and mindsets to develop a secure attachment style. And that’s exactly what we cover in today’s show. 

In this episode, you’ll discover the 4 attachment styles, how they show up and impact relationships, and how to grow out of an insecure attachment style into a secure one. 

The end result? 

Not only will you have more luck with building a healthy, thriving relationship, but you’ll also grow in every other area of your life too. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

  • How to break free from your relationship-sabotaging attachment style (even if it’s wrecked every relationship you’ve been in) (0:34) 
  • The weirdest, yet most proven way to grow in your career, land a promotion, and bring home a bigger paycheck (2:12) 
  • How your parents’ programming suffocates your relationships today (and how to stop letting your childhood programming control your adult life) (3:53) 
  • 4 types of attachment styles, how to figure out which style best suits you, and how each one shows up in relationships (4:14) 
  • The “survival strategy” mindset shift for understanding and healing past traumas that keep you stuck today (11:24) 
  • How the “name it” method builds emotional awareness, improves your emotional regulation, and helps you avoid explosive fights (17:46) 

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery 

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