Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Calling - I Deserve to Be a Mother
May 26, 2022
The podcast tackles the intense desire for motherhood faced by a trans woman, contrasting her aspirations with her partner's hesitations. It dives into the emotional turbulence of family planning in relationships and the need for open communication. The discussion navigates the delicate balance between individual wants and shared decisions, exploring the complexities that emerge when one partner feels pressured by the other's choices. It highlights the significance of support, understanding, and the search for clarity in navigating love and parenthood.
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False Starts
- Esther Perel's caller, Astaire, recounts a previous four-year relationship and marriage that ended in divorce.
- During that time, she was a stepmother and deeply bonded with the child, experiencing significant loss after the separation.
Unpacking Family
- Perel advises Astaire to unpack her desire for a family, exploring different family-building approaches.
- Perel questions if a biological link is desired to correct the previous loss of a stepchild, highlighting the layers of Astaire's motivations.
Clarity and Societal Norms
- Astaire gained clarity about her desire and right to be a mother from her previous relationship.
- However, she feels societal norms haven't caught up, especially regarding dating as a trans woman.