Talk So Your Kids Tune In, Not Out

Ever feel like a broken record—“How many times do I have to tell you?” This episode is your lifeline out of the endless reminder loop. Justin and Kylie share nine proven strategies to cut through the noise, build connection, and get kids to follow through—without the yelling, nagging, or power struggles.

Key Points

• Why repeating yourself trains kids to tune you out
• The 3-step “attention first” method: name, pause, eye contact
• Speak their language: short, clear, kind, one thing at a time
• Confirm understanding with questions (“What needs to happen before we leave?”)
• Read non-verbal cues and adjust your tone
• Validate feelings without caving to demands
• Practice patience—give them space to act
• Create a culture of respectful, safe communication
• Strengthen connection so cooperation comes naturally
• When all else fails, jump in and do it together

Quote of the Episode
“Repeating yourself doesn’t work. Connection does.” – Justin Coulson

Resources

• What To Do When Kids Won’t Listen
• How to Get Your Kids to Really Listen [Ebook + AudioBook]
• Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletter

Action Steps for Parents

1. Choose one strategy from today’s episode and try it at your next “please put your shoes on” moment.
2. Notice your own tone and pacing—slow down and connect before speaking.
3. Reflect tonight: which approach helped your child respond best?

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