The Gentleman's Take #16 - Singles event host reveals exactly how women want to be approached - Ashley Coates
Sep 10, 2025
Ashley Coates, a host for Thursday dating events and TikTok influencer, shares her insights on modern dating. She discusses the transition from dating apps to in-person events, emphasizing the comfort and authenticity they offer. Ashley reveals how to use personal style to create great first impressions and highlights the importance of genuine interactions. She also dives into the differences in dating cultures between Chicago and LA, and how social dynamics play a crucial role in making connections in real life.
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Use Curated Events To Remove Guesswork
- Attend curated singles events to remove the guessing about who is single and open to conversation.
- Use the even gender ratio and casual venue to make approaching low-pressure and efficient.
Show Up Even If You're Nervous
- If you feel anxious, go anyway and lean on the host for introductions or bring a friend.
- Treat the event like a normal night out to reduce pressure and ease into conversations.
Lower Barrier, Higher Expectations
- Singles events lower certain barriers but can amplify overaggressive behaviour from some men.
- Women notice when men act entitled just because they're at a singles event, which backfires.