Front Row Dads with Jon Vroman

Breaking Mr. Nice Guy: Build Stronger Boundaries with Your Wife and Kids

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Dec 3, 2025
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ANECDOTE

Writing Through Men's Group Work

  • Robert described writing No More Mr. Nice Guy across years while leading men's groups.
  • He iteratively tested chapters with groups before publishing the book in 2003.
INSIGHT

Nice Guy Syndrome As Male Codependency

  • Nice Guy Syndrome is essentially male-pattern codependency driven by shame and fear.
  • Men adapt giving-to-get behaviors early in life to manage vulnerability and earn love.
INSIGHT

Two Sides Of The Same Fight/Freeze Spectrum

  • Both ‘nice guys’ and aggressive jerks manage shame and vulnerability.
  • The nice guy uses flight/fawn; the jerk uses fight, but both manipulate to hide fear.
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