Pillow Talks E242: Penis Performance Problems: What’s Really Going On (And What To Do About It)
Jan 8, 2026
Explore the common but misunderstood issues surrounding erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety. Discover the surprising effects of long-term porn use and how stress and aging can impact erections. Learn about the emotional implications of these challenges and how they affect relationships. Gain insights into how to compassionately address concerns with a partner and the potential role of testosterone in libido and performance. With practical tips and support strategies, this conversation aims to foster closeness and understanding.
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Definitions Are Subjective
- Erectile dysfunction (ED) and other penis performance issues lack strict time-based definitions and are best defined by a person's lived experience.
- Self-reported dysfunction depends on whether usual arousal or orgasm cues fail during expected sexual activity.
Porn Can Rewire Sexual Response
- Porn can cause performance problems when consumption desensitizes attention to bodily signals and primes unrealistic stimulation.
- Vanessa ranks unhealthy porn use among the top three causes of penis performance issues.
Vary Masturbation To Rebuild Sensitivity
- Avoid a single repetitive masturbation technique and the "death grip" to prevent needing excessive stimulation during partnered sex.
- Vary methods, fantasies, and stimulation to rebuild sensitivity to different sensations.