Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2787: The ABCs of Not Taking Things Personally AND What My Daughter Taught Me About Love by Stella Grizont on Emotional Intelligence
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Nov 4, 2025 Stella Grizont shares insightful strategies for emotional resilience, emphasizing the importance of not taking things personally. She discusses Albert Ellis's techniques to challenge negative beliefs, helping listeners manage their reactions. A touching moment with her daughter illustrates the power of unconditional love and presence in relationships. Grizont encourages us to greet loved ones with the same enthusiasm as children and highlights how meaningful connections are key to happiness. The blend of emotional intelligence and heartfelt reflection makes for an uplifting conversation.
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Rigid 'Musts' Fuel Personalizing
- Albert Ellis found rigid 'musts' drive overreactions and personalizing others' behavior.
- Recognizing these irrational demands frees you from needless anxiety and resentment.
Use ABCDE To Calm Reactive Thoughts
- Practice the ABCDE technique to reframe upsetting events into calmer perspectives.
- Dispute your initial belief to reduce anger and restore control over your response.
Separate Facts From Interpretations
- When triggered, list the factual activating event before adding interpretation.
- Then generate alternative explanations to give others the benefit of the doubt and calm yourself.