Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander, her husband, is a self proclaimed “regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade.” Together, they help people stop feeling so embarrassed about sex, start having more fun in the bedroom and communicate better. They join the show to talk how to *actually* keep the spark alive in long term relationships, being child-free by choice, how to discern between true incompatibility and just poor communication, the two types of desire and sex drives, relationship and sex myths and how to talk to your partner about sex.

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