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Haven!

A Color Palette of Friendship: Is having one BFF realistic? Learning to appreciate people for the rainbow of roles they play in our lives

Jun 3, 2024
01:09:49

I think sometimes with the media we are set up to think we will have the one "end all / be all / bff" friend that will fulfill all our bestie needs. But that's just a lot of pressure and expectation to put on someone. I like to see my relationships like a color palette - I want allllll the colors.

The yellows which are the girls I just go to the nail salon with and talk about the Bachelor.

Passionate reds who are chasing their career dreams and can gas me up and inspire me to go for my goals.

Deep blues for when I'm going through something hard and need to process it with their wisdom.

Light pinks which are maybe my neighbors who I walk to the Sunday farmer's market with and talk about whatever.

Some people can carry multiple colors but ultimately, just like in marriage, I can't expect one to meet all my needs.

For this topic I bring in a multi-color friend of mine, Tess Roy, and we talk about how the nuances of this topic like...

  • Is it easy or difficult for you to make friends? 
  • How do you personally handle when someone wants to commit to a deeper friendship but you’re either not interested, or can’t meet them where they’re at?
  • Who is one great friend you’ve had in your life and what made them special? 


I hope after you listen you leave with a new appreciation for some relationships in your life.

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