In this episode of the Haven! podcast book club, I sit down with author Erwin Raphael McManus to dive into his latest book, The 7 Frequencies of Communication, and explore how these frequencies show up in our everyday lives.Are you a Maven, a Seer, a Commander, a Professor, a Healer, a Challenger, or a Motivator? Discovering your unique frequency can unlock your potential and transform how you connect with others.Erwin graciously joined us for a live Q&A with my listeners, where we tackled real-life applications of these frequencies. The conversation began as my own personal therapy session (imagine a Commander married to a Maven—opposites definitely attract!) and unfolded into a rich discussion on self-talk, parenting, conflict resolution, and navigating contrasting perspectives.Whether you’re new to this concept or already curious about communication styles, this episode is for anyone who wants to be heard, understood, and impactful in how they relate to the world around them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sister relationships can be very... trickyLike, I would give my sister my kidney but not my phone charger - what is that??I was recently watching the Netflix Series "Nobody Wants This" and I thought it portrayed the complicated relationship with both humor and warmth. One scene that grabbed me was where the protagonist (played by Kristen Bell) is at a dinner party and it comes up in conversation that she has a sister. She then is asked the #1 follow-up question every sister gets in that scenario "Oh, are you two close?"Her response was the best answer I've heard yet which was "Oh yeah, she's my best friend and my worst enemy" which to me summarizes the dynamics perfectly. This episode is immediately following a previous one titled "How to brainwash your kids into being best friends" so I thought it would be the perfect dove-tail to bring in my OWN sister, Clancy, and we chat more about the complex world of sisterhood. If you have a sister, I hope you find our discussion both humorous and warm - if you do NOT have a sister, take this opportunity to have a peak into the convoluted world of SISTERS! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brainwashing Your Kids Into Being Best Friends?Growing up my brother, sister & I had some knock-down drag-out gnarly flights… so now that I have two little ones I am verrrrry interested in how to mitigate that ahead of time. It seems sibling rivalry is not only normalized but it’s perceived as inevitable and beyond evolutionary control. Most advice out there isn’t really even on how to navigate it while they’re children but primarily hoping “when you get older you’ll grow out of it and end up being best friends, just wait!”But what about those 20+ years in-between when they seem to be at each other’s throats??I brought in someone who is an expert on this subject in my eyes - I have seen my cousins play together, stick up for one another, and truly call each other their best friends - so when I asked my aunt @mariacoleman “how did you do that??” a few years ago I was shocked by her answer…“Oh, I brainwashed them into loving each other”😏Tune into the episode to hear what she means by that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Preschool Moms...I have done a few episodes on this topic as it’s my current phase of life having a 3yr old and a 5yr old!Previously in this series I've talked with friends about how to connect with other parents which can be tricky with kids crawling all over us and interrupting every few sentences. Plus even meeting people can be hard as the quick hallway passing makes it hard focus. Yet, we typically are all on the birthday circuit seeing one another at 8 different fall birthday parties. We also discussed the dilemma of whether or not we should be putting our kids’ faces online without their consent and the lasting impacts of that still being a bit uncertain.As we were even getting in the discussions I got the well deserved critique of “why is it preschool moms when dads are involved now too?” Hello. How sexist of me!SO I wanted to bring in someone I know is a very hands on and involved dad to talk a bit about what it's like for our counterparts when it comes to this unique window of parenthood.Welcome Andres Figueroa as we talk about his POV as a dad to two kids under the age of 4.We chat about the unique role of dads in a kids' life and how important it can be.In this phase of life my husband and I are also constantly sending parenting memes to each other so Andres & I pull up a few popular ones and discuss what makes them resonate so deeply with us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Robbie Aholoka, a gifted singer and musician, joins the conversation about the awkwardness of receiving compliments. They explore why compliments often lead to cringe-worthy responses, diving into cultural influences and personal histories. The duo examines childhood experiences that shape our views on self-worth and the psychological effects of accepting praise. With humor and insight, they discuss the art of complimenting, the impact on relationships, and the journey toward embracing self-affirmation.

Bringing back a crowd favorite to the pod… my mom @lisawhelchel!She & I debated back and forth about what topic should we cover together and when we couldn’t land on one we chose to let the fates decide!I threw up a question box on my Instagram Q&A and you guys delivered with some fascinating promptsYa lobbed a few easy ones like ”who was your first celebrity crush?” and“what quality do you admire most in another individual”Sprinkling in some medium-spicy - “If you had a warning label what would it say?” and “what is the sound that drives you crazy?”Then turning on the heat with a few like asking “am I the black sheep of the family?” and talking about an activity/experience we have shared as adults that would have sounded impossible to me as a kid.Tune in to the full episode to hear our responses.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s your favorite…. An Aaron! TakeoverWhat does it mean to “live the dream”? Most people might say…💰 Financial security 💼 Career Fulfillment⛳️ Freedom🏥 Health🏆 Personal Accomplishments☮️ ContentmentDreams create hopeAnd hope leads us to the futureI think being able to dream together is one of the most important things we can doBut not just dreaming… we need to act on themTogether we discuss as a couple… How do you build shared dreams?  How do they evolve over time?  Have you ever had a dream die? What happened? How do you straddle contentment and ambition?  What current dreams are you working toward? What are our dreams for our family? But my favorite one he asked…“What dream are we living right now?”I always love it when @aaronweits is the guest as we just follow his train of thought - and let’s just say he takes it all over the place, haha Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Social Media + Kids = ???We are the first generation to really have to wrestle with this as we were the ones in jr. high / high school when social media even came about to give us access to each other 24/7. We were so naive throwing Facebook albums with 80 pictures from one night out and didn't really think about any lasting impacts as at the time it felt like it was just to your own inner circle. Since then it’s grown into this ginormous beast and we now know the internet is forever...So, as we have kids, it’s a parent's real decision on whether or not you’re going to put your kids online or not. We don’t know enough about what the impact of that will be for them to have their childhood on display.They can’t consent but do we consent for them? We may act as their proxy, but eventually we also have to decide what age do we give them access to it themselves?It’s a topic I have with girlfriends of a “should we, should we not” so I wanted to bring in two other preschool moms and get their takes. One of my friends, Nia Sanchez Booko, is literally on a reality television show with her family & her twin daughters star as the baby in "Young Sheldon" while another friend, Lauren Mulenos, throws emojis on her children when posting on her stories. I brought them both in to share their POV as we try to determine what's right for our respective families. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Safeguarding your marriage from infidelity is no small feat. The hosts dive into the importance of open communication, emotional awareness, and setting clear boundaries. They discuss how understanding your own needs can prevent feelings of brokenness that lead to affairs. Insightfully, they emphasize that transparency with your partner fosters deeper connections, even when uncomfortable truths emerge. With personal anecdotes sprinkled in, listeners learn that nurturing a playful bond can be just as crucial in shielding against temptation.

Communication can be tough - especially when you have to deliver some difficult feedback.Kim Scott is a well-known figure in the business world, particularly for her work on management and leadership. Her background includes roles at major tech companies like Google and Apple, where she was involved in building and managing teams. She wrote the book "Radical Candor: How to be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity" which breaks down what it looks like to both care personally and challenge directly landing you in the sweet spot of radical candor.But what are some of the other quadrants we can fall into?Do you slip into ruinous empathy which happens when you care a lot but never challenge? (Picture EVERYTHING IS AWESOME!!! from the Lego movie)Are you known at the office for your obnoxious aggression which isn't showing your invested in the other person but you're absolutely going full-force on the challenging? (Meryl Streep in Devil Wears Prada, anyone?)Or are you manipulatively insincere where you're not really emotionally involved at all or speaking up? (Office Space: "I'm gonna need you to come in on Saturday...mmmk?")Our first ever Haven! book club read the book to discuss it together last month and had the privilege of the author herself joining to answer our questions.Kim graciously answered our questions and I think you'll enjoy what she has to say! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices