Authors and podcast hosts Susan and Kelly share their experiences and emotions as their daughters leave for college, offering wisdom on handling major life transitions with grace. They discuss the bittersweet emotions of an empty nest, adjusting to the change, finding joy in new experiences, and embracing the newfound freedom. They also explore coping strategies for the empty nest syndrome.
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Allowing oneself to feel both happiness and sadness simultaneously is important in the empty nesting process.
Empty nesting provides an opportunity for parents to reconnect with passions and interests that may have been put on hold during the parenting years.
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Processing the Emotions of Empty Nesting
Empty nesting can be a highly emotional experience as parents grapple with the sense of loss and sadness when their children leave for college. Kelly Corrigan, a best-selling author and podcast host, shares her personal story of dropping off her youngest child at college and the intense emotions that came with it. She emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to feel both happiness and sadness simultaneously, acknowledging the complexity of the parent-child relationship. Corrigan advises parents to let their emotions flow freely and not suppress them, as it can ultimately lead to a more present and fulfilling relationship with their children.
Finding Purpose and Rediscovering Hobbies
Empty nesting provides an opportunity for parents to reconnect with their own passions and interests. Corrigan encourages parents to revisit the activities they may have put on hold while raising children, whether it's playing sports, pursuing a hobby, or learning something new. She highlights that life after kids can be exciting and filled with novel experiences. Research shows that happiness tends to increase after the age of 60, suggesting that there is a lot to look forward to in this stage of life.
Preparing for the Transition and Letting Go
Preparing for empty nesting involves finding a balance between cherishing the time with children still at home and acknowledging the upcoming separation. Corrigan suggests practicing 'house plant parenting,' which entails being present and available, but not overbearing or demanding of constant attention. This approach allows children to feel supported while gradually fostering independence. Corrigan also advises parents to be open to the idea of a different and fulfilling future beyond parenting, celebrating the unique connection that evolves between parents and adult children.
Susan never really got over saying goodbye to her eldest daughter, who left for college four years ago. She knew it would be sad, but she didn’t expect to be nauseous. Now her youngest is applying to college, and she’s already dreading drop-off next fall which makes her feel like a "pathetic loser." What can Susan do to prep herself for more heartbreak and a completely empty nest? On this episode of How To!, Amanda Ripley brings on Kelly Corrigan, best-selling author and host of the podcast Kelly Corrigan Wonders. She recently dropped her youngest daughter off at college, which she wrote about in an essay for the New York Times called “How to Let Go of Your Irreplaceable, Unstoppable Daughter.” She shares some hard-earned wisdom about how to handle major life transitions with grace.
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