In this episode, the hosts debunk common myths about sex, from blowjobs to body counts. They discuss the importance of communication and using lube for a pleasurable experience. The speakers also touch on the timing of blow jobs in relationships and the misconception that both partners need to orgasm for great sex.
Receiving an 'I'll let you know' response can be a red flag, indicating lack of intention and interest in pursuing a relationship.
Open communication is crucial in sexual relationships, fostering trust, intimacy, and mutual satisfaction.
Sex should not be painful; prioritize personal comfort and pleasure, seeking support if persistent pain occurs.
Do not let societal judgments about sexual experiences impact self-worth; focus on honest communication, consent, and mutual pleasure.
Deep dives
Being left hanging on plans
I had a planned date with someone, but they hit me with an 'I'll let you know' and it left me feeling insulted and unsure of their intentions. I didn't respond and they reached out after I left town, confirming my suspicions.
The 'I'll let you know' behavior
The 'I'll let you know' response from someone can be a red flag, indicating that they are not being intentional about seeing you and are keeping their options open. It is important not to tolerate this behavior and to recognize that if someone wanted to see you, they would make it happen.
Reciprocity in the behavior
Sometimes both parties engage in the 'I'll let you know' behavior, which can be more acceptable in certain casual situations. However, if you are looking for a more serious relationship, it is essential to be mindful of whether the other person's actions align with your intentions.
Insulting and transparent behavior
Receiving an 'I'll let you know' response right after leaving town is insulting and transparent. It is a clear sign that the person is not actively pursuing or prioritizing you. It is important to recognize this behavior and not settle for someone who treats you as an option rather than a priority.
The importance of open communication in sexual relationships
Open communication is crucial in sexual relationships. It allows partners to express their desires, boundaries, and preferences, leading to a deeper understanding and better connection in the bedroom. Whether it's discussing sexual interests, experimenting with new activities, or addressing any concerns or issues, open communication fosters trust and intimacy.
Debunking the myth of expected pain during sex
Contrary to popular belief, sex is not supposed to be painful. While some discomfort may be experienced, especially during first-time intercourse, regular and ongoing pain should not be expected or accepted. It is important to prioritize personal comfort and pleasure in sexual experiences, and to seek support from healthcare professionals if persistent pain occurs.
Overcoming societal judgments about sexual experiences
Judgments regarding the number of sexual partners or experiences should not determine one's self-worth or impact their relationships. It is essential to challenge societal norms and embrace a sex-positive mindset. Everyone's sexual journey is unique, and what matters most is honest communication, consent, and mutual pleasure.
We’re myth busting on this episode with all the lies/bad advice we’re told about sex – from blowjobs to blue balls to body counts to penetration being painful. We’re also discussing positions (including a new favorite) and why you can still have great sex without an orgasm. Before we dive into the topic, we’re unpacking a male behavior we hate (and also indicates he’s not interested/intentional), sharing new icks, and advising what never to do when packing for a long trip. Enjoy!
