910: 90% of the Time, Parents Aren't Toxic Every Time | Feedback Friday
Oct 13, 2023
This discussion dives deep into the psychological toll of growing up with parents who are abusive, even just 10% of the time. It offers strategies for enduring such dynamics and emphasizes the importance of seeking help. The conversation also unpacks the complexities of non-monogamous relationships and how to communicate differing desires between partners. Additionally, it tackles the challenges of refusing a job promotion that demands excessive work hours, all while critiquing the manipulative nature of multi-level marketing schemes.
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Reporting Abuse
Report parental abuse to Child Protective Services or a mandated reporter like a teacher or counselor.
Develop a safety plan with a trusted adult, including alternative places to stay if abuse occurs again.
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Interacting with Abusive Parents
Prioritize staying safe; avoid conflict with abusive parents if directly confronting them poses further risks.
Consider leaving home or seeking removal to ensure safety if possible, though this is difficult.
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Communicating Relationship Needs
Communicate your need for monogamy clearly to your partner; it's a valid relationship preference.
Don't compromise your values for a partner; differing relationship needs might mean incompatibility.
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How do you and your sis endure life under your parents—who are "only" abusive 10% of the time—until you're old enough to leave? Welcome to Feedback Friday!
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On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
How do you and your sister endure life under your parents — who are "only" abusive 10% of the time — until you're old enough to leave home? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
Your long-term partner has been dropping hints about opening up your relationship, which only makes you feel like you're not good enough for him. Will insisting on maintaining monogamy just urge him to move on — and would that be the worst thing in the world if you each want something different from a relationship?
While you're flattered your company thinks enough of you to offer you your boss' job when he retires, you're content where you are and don't really want to be working 70-80 hours a week in your 50s. How can you tactfully turn down such an "opportunity" without appearing ungrateful?
You know all the other MLMs out there are scams that prey on people eager to "be their own boss" while draining their bank accounts by making them buy products they don't need and will never sell. But the one you belong to is totally different, right? Right?
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