Renowned relationship expert Sadia Khan discusses common traits of poor communicators, why women feel unsafe in relationships, and why people change their personality to fit their partners. They also touch on divorce rates between men and women, gaining confidence to attract the right partner, and the importance of communication and self-esteem in relationships.
Read more
AI Summary
AI Chapters
Episode notes
auto_awesome
Podcast summary created with Snipd AI
Quick takeaways
Effective communication involves expressing needs, meeting each other's needs, and establishing healthy boundaries.
Men need to feel unapologetically themselves and have their needs predicted by their partner, while women seek protection in various forms.
Accepting each other's flaws, setting healthy boundaries, and building self-esteem are crucial for a successful relationship.
Deep dives
Importance of Communication in Relationships
Communicating effectively in relationships is essential for maintaining closeness and avoiding distant relationships. Movies and media have perpetuated the false notion that partners should be able to read each other's minds and predict their needs, leading to unrealistic expectations. In reality, effective communication involves expressing needs, predicting and meeting each other's needs, and establishing healthy boundaries. It's important to communicate early on in a relationship rather than assuming the other person will just know what you want.
Understanding the Needs of Men and Women in Relationships
For men, feeling unapologetically themselves and having their needs predicted by their partner is essential. This includes emotional support, appreciation, and allowing them to take off the mask they wear in the outside world. Women, on the other hand, seek protection in various forms, whether it's emotional, financial, or physical. Feeling safe and protected allows women to feel valued and respected in the relationship. It's important for both partners to understand and meet each other's needs to foster a happier, healthier relationship.
Acceptance and Self-Esteem in Relationships
Accepting one another for who they are, flaws and all, is crucial for a successful relationship. Trying to change your partner to fit your own expectations is a sign of insecurity and lack of self-esteem. It's essential to set healthy boundaries and communicate your needs early on. Additionally, learning to receive love, compliments, and positive affirmations can improve self-esteem and overall well-being. Building self-esteem and confidence allows for a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.
The Pressure to Settle Down
Many women feel a biological and societal pressure to settle down and get married, even if they have doubts about their partner. This pressure can lead them to overlook red flags and enter into marriages they know aren't right for them. Men, on the other hand, may also know they're not marrying the right person, but are more willing to accept the monotony of marriage.
Testing in Relationships
Women often test their partners as an evolutionary instinct to ensure they are strong and capable of enduring challenges. These tests can involve pushing boundaries, such as asserting independence or maintaining contact with ex-partners. However, men who succumb to these tests may be seen as lacking strength, which can lead to relationship issues. While speaking to ex-partners as friends is possible, it is often seen as disrespectful to current relationships and can potentially undermine trust.
Joining us is the renowned relationship expert and author, Sadia Khan. With years of experience in the field, Sadia has been a guiding light for individuals seeking love, companionship, and personal growth. Today, we're delving into a topic that many of us can relate to – dating. Whether you're a novice or a seasoned dater, we've got you covered.
After graduating in psychology and completing masters in developmental psychology Sadia began teaching in inner London schools amongst children of deprived backgrounds. She then went on to teach privileged students in Dubai and noticed not only the economic but psychological advantage wealth provides children when their parents can access therapy. Sadia decided to complete her studies in psychotherapy and decided to post a few videos online mainly to make therapy accessible to those who may struggle to afford it and to make therapy more digestible to those who may not understand the concept. The videos blew up and changed her career path to online therapist, podcaster and content creator racking over 100 million views online.
In this episode you will learn
Common traits of all poor communicators
The #1 reason women feel unsafe in relationships
Why people change their personality to fit their partners
Who files for divorce more, men vs. women
How to gain confidence and self esteem to attract the right partner