155: Why Won’t They Let You In? REAL Avoidant Attachment Truths | In the Trenches with Tom Stroud

Aug 12, 2025

In this engaging discussion, Tom Stroud, a relationship expert from 'Love Is Blind UK' and host of the 'Why Do Men' podcast, shares insights into avoidant attachment styles and their impact on modern dating. He and Sabrina explore the myths of dating, emotional intelligence, and effective communication. They address issues like texting anxiety and the importance of understanding one's emotions in relationships. Personal stories about growth and navigating attachment dynamics offer listeners valuable perspectives on fostering healthier connections.

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Becoming Aware Of Avoidant Attachment

Tom Stroud discovered his avoidant attachment after years of dating and reflection.
He later used therapy and reading to change patterns and understand his upbringing.

INSIGHT

Dating Polarization And Gender Confusion

Tom Stroud observes men retreating and women craving emotional availability in modern dating.
He links confusion to unclear expectations about roles and who should approach.

ANECDOTE

How Abandonment Fueled Avoidant Behavior

Tom linked his avoidance to childhood abandonment and not having a father.
His six-year relationship exposed those patterns and pushed him toward serious self-work.

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In this episode, Sabrina sits down with Tom Stroud from Love Is Blind UK to tackle your biggest dating dilemmas—avoidant attachment, emotional intelligence, and why modern dating feels so polarized. They debunk myths like "if he wanted to, he would", discuss texting anxiety, and share personal stories of growth from avoidance to security.

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