Am I Doing It Wrong? How Forgiveness Actually Works — And When Not To Do It
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Jan 16, 2025 Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Esther Boykin breaks down the intricacies of forgiveness versus reconciliation. She emphasizes forgiveness as a fluid process, addressing the emotional burdens that come from holding onto anger. Their discussion highlights the necessity of apologies and the importance of self-forgiveness over societal pressures. Practical strategies are shared for managing difficult emotions and setting boundaries while navigating relationships. Listeners are invited to reflect on personal growth through life's challenges and the transformative power of empathy.
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Forgiveness Is Non-Linear Process
- Forgiveness is a fluid, non-linear process rather than a fixed sequence of steps.
- Feelings of resentment or anger can resurface, requiring ongoing work to truly forgive.
Forgiveness vs Reconciliation
- Forgiving does not mean forgetting or reconciling the relationship.
- You can release emotional burden while maintaining boundaries and not restoring closeness.
Forgiveness Frees You Emotionally
- Forgiveness primarily frees you from emotional labor and pain.
- Practice forgiving to release the heavy burden anger and hurt place on your wellbeing.