It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

High Conflict Patterns: Understanding Situational vs Long-Term Behavior • And We Introduce Conflict Influencer!

Jul 17, 2025
Explore the intriguing distinction between situational high conflict behaviors and long-term patterns that disrupt relationships. Discover how stress can trigger temporary conflicts while recognizing signs of persistent issues like blaming others and all-or-nothing thinking. Learn effective strategies to manage high conflict individuals, emphasizing solutions over past grievances. Plus, get introduced to Conflict Influencer, a new platform aimed at supporting those navigating treacherous interpersonal waters.
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INSIGHT

Situational vs Persistent High Conflict

  • High conflict behavior can be situational or a persistent pattern akin to chronic alcohol dependence.
  • Persistent high conflict personalities show blaming, all-or-nothing thinking, unmanaged emotions, and extreme behaviors.
ANECDOTE

Mayor Bob's High Conflict Example

  • A political figure knocked down an airport employee displaying clear high conflict behavior.
  • His actions foreshadowed difficulties that led to resignation within months.
ADVICE

Avoid Escalation Traps

  • Avoid giving high conflict people insight into their behavior or focusing on emotions during conflict.
  • Don't label them with diagnostic terms as it escalates conflict and increases blame.
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