I Have ADHD Podcast 349 BITESIZE |Stop Making Everyone Else Comfortable: Waking Up to Unequal Relationships
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Nov 6, 2025 This podcast dives into the repercussions of accommodating others due to ADHD. It explores how childhood experiences shape ADHD individuals' tendency to prioritize others' comfort. The host encourages listeners to seek mutual relationships where both parties share responsibilities. Therapy is highlighted as a crucial step for emotional healing, especially when paired with ADHD treatment. Additionally, resources for improving relationship dynamics are introduced, including an upcoming book on the topic.
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Caller Paula’s Wake-Up After New Medication
- Paula described lifelong mental illness and a late adult ADHD diagnosis, saying she always made others comfortable.
- After a medication change she realized she no longer had to constantly accommodate others to be accepted.
Making Others Comfortable Is A Learned Survival Strategy
- Many people with ADHD work hard to make others comfortable due to childhood rejection, trauma, and relational wounding.
- This behavior often persists into adulthood as a strategy to get needs met and gain acceptance.
Seek Mutuality, Not One-Sided Comfort
- Seek relationships with mutual accommodation and reciprocity instead of one-sided effort.
- Refuse to be the only person always making others comfortable and demand reciprocal kindness.