Tips on fostering kids' healthy persistence, dealing with frustrated children, encouraging independence in problem-solving, nurturing emotional response to winning/losing games, and building resilience and confidence through emotional support.
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Encouraging children to persist through challenges by normalizing frustration and accepting their emotional responses fosters confidence and resilience.
Fostering healthy attitudes towards competition and self-improvement involves emphasizing emotional resilience and learning through various outcomes.
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Encouraging Persistence and Grit in Children
Helping children develop the ability to be patient, persistent, and confident is essential. Encourage children to persist through challenges by normalizing frustration and accepting their emotional responses. Trusting the process and allowing kids to experience and express frustration helps build their confidence and resilience to tackle difficult tasks.
Dealing with Early Perfectionism and Frustration in Toddlers
Early signs of perfectionism in young children, such as fear of being wrong, can be addressed by setting boundaries and encouraging independent efforts. Avoid drawing more advanced creations for children, allowing them space to explore their abilities at their own pace. Normalize efforts over outcomes to reduce performance pressure and encourage autonomy.
Supporting Children in Game Play and Winning
Addressing challenges with children who seek to win all the time involves welcoming their emotions, whether they win or lose. Avoid letting children win artificially, as it undermines their actual sense of accomplishment. Emphasize emotional resilience and learning through various outcomes, fostering healthy attitudes towards competition and self-improvement.
We all want our kids to proceed through life with confidence as they develop physically, mentally, and emotionally. Because we care so much, it can be difficult for us to watch them struggle when faced with a challenge or a new skill. It's especially tough to see them becoming so frustrated that they give up or refuse to even try in the first place, even when we've done all we can to encourage them.
In this episode, Janet shares a helpful reframe and actionable guidelines for fostering our kids' healthy persistence, and then responds to some specific situations parents recently shared with her: a child getting too frustrated when attempting anything challenging; a 3-year-old who refuses to draw and insists her parent do it for her; and a 5-year-old who falls apart if he loses a game.
Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.
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