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3417: The Problem With (How We Treat) Highly Disciplined People by Dr. Samantha Joel of Luvze

Dec 8, 2024

Dr. Samantha Joel, an expert on self-control and author at Luvze, discusses the hidden challenges faced by highly disciplined individuals. She reveals how high expectations can lead to overwork and relationship strain. Despite their accomplishments, these individuals often feel unappreciated. The conversation emphasizes the necessity of balancing expectations with empathy, highlighting that both self-controlled individuals and their loved ones should adjust their perceptions to foster healthier relationships and reduce stress.

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Samantha Joel

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Highly disciplined individuals face increased expectations from others, leading to feelings of overwhelm and potential relationship strain due to their perceived capabilities.

Misunderstandings about the efforts of highly disciplined people can undermine their relationships, emphasizing the need for empathy and recognition of their struggles.

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The Value of Self-Control

Self-control is recognized as a crucial skill that enables individuals to achieve their goals across various aspects of life. Those with high self-control tend to excel academically, engage in healthier behaviors, and maintain superior psychological well-being. Furthermore, in romantic relationships, couples with high levels of self-control often exhibit better communication, trust, and satisfaction. High self-control individuals can effectively manage daily responsibilities and commitments, enhancing their overall quality of life.

The Hidden Challenges of High Self-Control in Relationships

04:46

Navigating the Duality of Discipline and Recognition

03:40

Intro

2min

The Hidden Challenges of High Self-Control in Relationships

5min

The Burden of High Self-Control: Expectations and Realities

2min

Navigating the Duality of Discipline and Recognition

4min

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Episode 3417:

Highly disciplined individuals often face high expectations from others, leading to overwork and underappreciation despite their visible accomplishments. Dr. Samantha Joel highlights research showing how these expectations ranging from better performance to handling more responsibilities can burden self-controlled people and strain their relationships. The article urges both highly disciplined individuals and those around them to balance expectations with fairness and empathy.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.luvze.com/the-problem-with-how-we-treat-highly-disciplined-people/

Quotes to ponder:

"People with high self-control might be left feeling overburdened by their friends, family, and coworkers."

"Completing difficult tasks is just as effortful for those with high self-control as it is for those with low self-control."

"Although high self-control individuals are happier in their relationships overall, they would be more satisfied still if their partners did not expect so much of them."

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