Sex Therapy 101 with Cami Hurst Sexy Book Club: Rekindling Desire
Jan 29, 2021
In this enlightening discussion, Braxton Dutson, a sexual health book reviewer, joins Cami to explore 'Rekindling Desire' by Barry W. McCarthy. They dive into essential topics like the shift from performance to pleasure, the significance of voluntary sex, and the disheartening stats on sexual satisfaction. Braxton enlightens listeners on the impact of lifespan changes on intimacy and offers strategies to tackle low desire. Their engaging banter and practical insights make this a must-listen for couples looking to rekindle their connection!
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Pleasure Over Performance
- Sexuality is best framed as giving and receiving pleasure and touch rather than performance.
- Shifting focus from orgasm/erection to connection reduces anxiety and disappointment.
Most Sex Isn't Perfect
- Most sexual encounters are not perfect and only about 35–45% are very good for both partners.
- Recognizing normal variability normalizes disappointment and lowers unrealistic expectations.
Asynchronous Turn-Taking Works
- Asynchronous sex (turn-taking) is normal and healthy in long-term relationships.
- The 'good enough' model accepts alternating focus on each partner rather than simultaneous peak pleasure.
