Asking better questions can lead to better medical outcomes and advocacy for oneself in the face of health challenges, as exemplified by Javier's experience with his father's illness and his own diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome.
Learning to ask better questions promotes personal growth and progress, allowing individuals to navigate challenges posed by ADHD and fulfil their commitments.
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The Power of Asking Better Questions
Javier Amor, a neurodivergent and alum of the ADHD Rewired Coaching program, shares the profound impact of learning to ask better questions. He credits the program with teaching him self-compassion and the importance of redirecting his thoughts. Javier recounts how asking better questions helped him navigate his father's illness and advocate for better treatment. By researching differential diagnoses and communicating assertively with medical professionals, Javier was able to overcome obstacles and extend his father's life. He emphasizes the value of asking questions in finding answers, advocating for oneself, and making progress in personal growth.
The Journey of Self-Discovery
Javier reflects on his personal journey of self-discovery and growth, highlighting the significance of acknowledging and accepting his ADHD. He talks about the challenges he faced and the work he put in to develop self-respect and the capacity to fulfill his commitments. Javier encourages listeners to embrace hope and recognize that tools and strategies are available to help navigate challenges posed by ADHD. He emphasizes the importance of connecting with the ADHD community for understanding, support, and shared experiences.
The Impact of Arc and Coaching
Javier discusses the transformative impact of the ADHD Rewired Coaching program, commonly known as Arc. He credits Arc with offering a space for growth, learning, and self-exploration. Javier highlights how the program helped him develop new skills, including time management and emotional regulation. He emphasizes the value of the coaching process, where members learn to ask themselves better questions and elicit insights that lead to personal progress and positive change. Javier emphasizes the importance of enjoying the journey rather than focusing solely on outcome-based goals.
Asking Better Questions Leads to Clarity
Javier shares his experience of how asking better questions led to greater clarity in understanding his health and gaining a diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS), a connective tissue disorder. Through effective questioning and research, he was able to identify the rare condition underlying his chronic pain, migraines, and hypermobility. Javier emphasizes the power of asking questions to advocate for oneself in medical settings and to seek answers that lead to more accurate diagnoses and appropriate treatment. He expresses his willingness to openly discuss his experience with EDS to help others who may be facing similar challenges.
In this episode, Javier Amor joins Eric from New York City! Javier is a real-estate broker and is also an Alumni Community member of ADHD reWired’s Coaching and Accountability Groups. Today, Javier shares his journey through chronic pain, managing Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), and self-advocacy. You’ll also hear how a curious mindset and the power of questions changed Javier’s life, and also how asking better questions led to saving his father’s life. Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:01:55] Javier shares why he wanted to learn the skill of asking better questions [00:05:29] “It starts with questioning myself.” [00:05:51] “How can I communicate to the doctors to make them think without being confrontational?” [00:10:56] The power of the pause, and “Is this going to be constructive, or is it going to ‘defeat’?” [00:11:28] Using cues and the “point of performance” to act on new knowledge [00:17:52] Javier talks about managing chronic pain [00:19:08] Javier shares how he prepared himself to see his doctor with what he learned through ArC and the books he’s read [00:22:09] Instead of asking x, ask y instead. [00:22:50] Javier speaks about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome [00:25:26] An example of asking curiously vs. telling [00:27:34] “This is my mission.” [00:31:28] The importance of asking & advocacy [00:33:26] “I do get stuck, but I don’t stay stuck.” [00:34:36] “To change self-concept as an adult… takes time.” [00:36:43] Eric & Javier share some final thoughts & words of wisdom Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Book: Instagram: Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens
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