Chip Conley on Finding Contentment and Embracing Our Achievements
Jan 17, 2024
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Chip Conley, successful hospitality entrepreneur and bestselling author, discusses boutique hotels, ego, reflection, and the most powerful idea from the Stoics. He also talks about his book 'Learning to Love Midlife' and the importance of redefining purpose and meaning in midlife. The episode explores curiosity and openness in aging, continuous learning, mental health, and rewarding boundaries.
Being a modern elder means prioritizing relevance over reverence, actively seeking out new experiences, and sharing wisdom with others.
Midlife is a time for self-reflection and transitioning from ego-driven decisions to soul-driven decisions, utilizing past experiences to make more informed choices.
Embracing a beginner's mind and exploring the unknown fosters personal growth, challenges limiting beliefs, and brings joy and meaning to life.
Deep dives
The Concept of Modern Elders
The concept of modern elders refers to individuals who embrace both wisdom and curiosity. Unlike traditional elders who are revered for their knowledge, modern elders actively seek out new experiences and stay relevant in today's world. They understand the importance of being a mentor and an intern simultaneously, continuously learning and sharing their wisdom with others. Being a modern elder means prioritizing relevance over reverence, and it requires humility and the ability to let go of ego. In an age where longevity is increasing, modern elders play a crucial role in creating a new generational compact and fostering symbiotic relationships between younger and older generations.
Embracing the Wisdom of Midlife
Midlife is a time of transition when the primary operating system of adulthood shifts from the ego to the soul. As individuals grow older, they have a larger body of evidence to draw from, allowing them to reflect on their past experiences and learn from them. This self-awareness and knowledge of oneself can be used to recognize patterns and make more informed decisions. It is essential to recognize the triggers that lead to certain behaviors and reactions, and work towards creating space between stimulus and response. By consciously choosing responses and embracing the wisdom that comes with age, individuals can strive for personal growth and a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them.
The Importance of Beginner's Mind and Play
Being a beginner and embracing a beginner's mind is a key aspect of personal growth and living a deeper and more fulfilling life. As individuals get older and more successful, it becomes easier to become trapped in one's ego and stick to familiar and comfortable experiences. However, exploring the unknown, trying new things, and learning something completely new is invigorating and widens the perspective. It allows individuals to strip away the ego, challenge their limiting beliefs, and discover new passions and curiosities. Engaging in play and experiential learning is especially valuable, as it provides an opportunity to become fully present, tap into one's innate curiosity, and find joy and meaning in the process of learning and exploring.
Integration of Mindfulness and Reflection
Mindfulness and reflection play a crucial role in personal growth and self-awareness. While many people associate mindfulness with meditation or yoga, it can take various forms depending on an individual's preferences and activities that bring them a sense of timeless awareness. Cultivating presence, observing one's triggers, and creating space between stimulus and response are essential in maintaining emotional moderation and preventing reactive behaviors. Reflection and journaling provide an opportunity to recognize patterns, distill lessons from personal experiences, and foster pattern recognition, which forms the foundation of wisdom. By regularly engaging in mindfulness practices and reflection, individuals can navigate their life's journey with increased awareness and make more intentional choices.
Shifting Perspective on Money and Success
The podcast episode discusses the speaker's evolving relationship with money and success. They share their experiences in the business world, including building and selling a boutique hotel company and joining Airbnb. The speaker reflects on their initial motivations for success and how money played a role in their pursuit of ambition and admiration. However, they also express a shift in mindset, prioritizing impact and joy over financial gains. They emphasize the concept of ROI (Ripples of Impact) and the importance of using success to make a difference rather than accumulating wealth.
Midlife Reflection and Reimagination
The podcast episode explores the idea of midlife reflection and the importance of reimagining one's life and purpose. The speaker discusses the concept of the midlife unraveling and reckoning, where individuals reach a point of questioning their assumptions and seeking new meaning. They highlight the need to re-architect one's life, considering additional longevity and the need to create a new blueprint in light of personal growth and changing circumstances. The speaker emphasizes the value of creating a reflection space, allowing individuals to explore their desires, purpose, and create a path that aligns with their true selves.
On this episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast, Ryan talks with successful hospitality entrepreneur and bestselling author Chip Conley on boutique hotels and stimulating the 5 senses, the importance of reflection, understanding what the ego is telling you but not identifying with it, the most powerful idea from the Stoics, along with his New York Times bestselling bookLearning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age.
Chip Conley is on a mission to reframe our relationship with aging. As the founder of MEA, the world's first midlife wisdom school with regenerative communities, Conley is disrupting both the idea of higher education and senior living. He has both a BA and MBA from Stanford University and an Honorary PhD in Psychology from Saybrook University. He’s been a TED speaker at the prestigious annual conference multiple times.
