PsycHacks Episode 272: How to dismantle envy
Dec 26, 2022
Learn how to dismantle envy by recognizing perceived deficits and understanding the complexities of comparisons with perceived equals. Discover strategies to overcome envy, such as shifting focus to less impressive traits in the person we envy and emphasizing indifference towards neutrals.
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Envy Definition
- Envy is a complex emotion requiring a perceived deficit, a personally relevant good, and a perceived equal.
- Dismantling any of these components neutralizes envy.
Dismantle the Equal Comparison
- Challenge the "perceived equal" aspect of envy.
- Consider if the person you envy truly has equivalent experience, background, skills, and traits.
Reframe Perceived Goods
- Reframe "goods" like money, relationships, or power as neutrals, not inherently good.
- Adopt an attitude of indifference towards these neutrals, recognizing they don't guarantee happiness.