153. Jodi Mullen: When Sexualized Play Shows Up in the Playroom
Aug 29, 2023
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Dr. Jodi Mullen, a professor and play therapist, discusses sexualized play with insightful topics including red flags and themes in therapy, discerning medical trauma vs. sexualized trauma, and discussing suspicions of sexual abuse with parents.
Recognize the overall theme and context of sexualized play, trusting intuition and paying attention to body language and physical responses.
Distinguish between aggression and protection in play therapy, using a right-brain, felt-sense approach to understand a child's underlying context and intent.
Deep dives
Recognizing and Addressing Sexualized Play in Play Therapy
Sexualized play often manifests through themes of trickery, deception, and betrayal. Children may engage in play scenarios where they trick the therapist or present something that initially appears innocent but has a hidden sexualized element. The key is to recognize the overall theme and context rather than focusing on specific objects or actions. It's important to trust our own intuition and feelings during these sessions, as well as to remain attuned to the child's body language and physical responses. It is crucial to approach these situations with compassion, understanding, and an openness to exploring the underlying meaning behind the play. While having conversations with parents or caregivers about our concerns can be challenging, it is essential to communicate honestly and empathetically, always keeping the child's well-being in mind. Seeking supervision and support is highly recommended to navigate these sensitive situations successfully.
Understanding the Complexity of Aggression and Protection
Aggression can be a theme in play therapy for children who have experienced sexual trauma, but it's vital to distinguish between aggression and protection. Sometimes, what may appear as aggressive play is actually a child's way of expressing their need for self-preservation and safety. It is crucial for therapists to recognize the underlying context and intent behind a child's actions. This requires utilizing a right-brain, felt-sense approach instead of relying solely on left-brain analytical thinking. By observing the child's behaviors, body language, and play themes, we can gain a deeper understanding of their experiences and respond to their needs in a more attuned and compassionate manner.
Approaching Sensitive Conversations with Parents/Caregivers
Initiating discussions about possible sexual trauma with parents or caregivers can be challenging, particularly when suspicions arise outside of the parent's initial concerns. When addressing these sensitive topics, it is vital to approach the conversation with compassion, empathy, and a non-judgmental attitude. Acknowledging the parent's potential fears, guilt, and shame is important, as they may already feel a sense of responsibility or failure. It is essential to convey the therapist's intention to support and guide them during this difficult time and emphasize that well-being and healing are the primary goals. Seeking supervision and practicing these conversations beforehand can provide therapists with the necessary skills and confidence to navigate these discussions sensitively.
Continuing Education and Resources
To further develop skills in recognizing and addressing sexualized play in play therapy, therapists can access self-study courses and live presentations offered by Dr. Jody Mullen. These resources provide insights into the mindset of perpetrators and help therapists understand the complexity surrounding this topic. Supervision and consultation are also valuable in enhancing therapists' abilities to effectively support children who have experienced sexual trauma. By continuing to educate ourselves and seek guidance, we can approach these sensitive issues with greater understanding and empathy, ultimately providing the best care for the children we work with.
To say that we’re excited for this conversation is an understatement because today’s topic is in the top three of the most requested topics since this podcast’s inception. We’ve been waiting for the perfect person to educate us on this topic, and there is no one better than Dr. Jodi Mullen to help us explore, understand, and make sense of a child’s sexualized play.
Dr. Jodi Ann Mullen, PhD LMHC NCC RPT-S CCPT-Master, is a professor at SUNY Oswego in the Counseling & Psychological Services Department and the coordinator of the Graduate Certificate Program in Play Therapy. She is the Director of Integrative Counseling Services, with several offices in Central New York. Jodi is an international speaker, author, credentialed play therapist and play therapy supervisor. She has 30 years in the field of counseling (... impressive!) and has authored books on play therapy, counseling children and adolescents, grief counseling and parenting.
Listen to this incredibly helpful and connecting conversation that will help you feel more prepared when you have a child show up on your caseload who has been sexually abused or demonstrates sexualized play:
How to trust your felt sense as the clinician when sexualized play shows up in the session;
Some of the red flags and themes that may indicate sexualized play (... and how understanding transference and countertransference give clues to what is happening for the client);
How to discern medical trauma vs. sexualized trauma;
How aggression shows up for children with sexualized trauma and what the behavior really means for these children;
How to talk to parents or caregivers when you expect trauma or abuse; and
The single most important thing we can do for our client that promotes deep healing, especially when justice is not possible.
This is a wonderfully helpful podcast that will leave you thinking wow, wow, wow! Jodi not only gives so many examples to help us understand sexualized trauma play, but gives us all the contextual and complex pieces of this type of therapeutic work with children.
And if you want to learn more about the mindset of a sexual perpetrator (... so important when we’re doing this work as play therapists), check out Jodi’s self-study course here!
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