Let Them: How to Take Back Your Peace and Power

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Sep 18, 2025

In this enlightening discussion, Mel dives into the Let Them Theory, a transformative approach to reclaiming your peace and power. She shares four crucial aspects of life you aren't responsible for, emphasizing the futility of trying to make others happy. Mel highlights the importance of allowing people to learn from their mistakes instead of rescuing them, and she encourages embracing misunderstandings as part of self-acceptance. Ultimately, it's about prioritizing your own joy and growth by setting strong, personal boundaries.

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ANECDOTE

Holding Back Joy For Others

A producer told Mel someone delayed posting an engagement photo to avoid hurting a friend's feelings.
This shows how people shrink themselves to manage others' emotions.

ADVICE

Say No Without Apology

Be honest and say no without apologizing when something doesn't align with you.
Say yes only when it genuinely makes you happy and aligns with your values.

ADVICE

Check What Problem You're Solving

Ask yourself which problem you're trying to solve when helping someone.
If they're not accepting help, stop enabling and let them take responsibility.

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If you’re tired of managing everyone’s moods, overexplaining yourself, fixing issues that aren’t yours to fix, or proving your worth to people who don’t see it, this episode is your reset.

In this solo episode, Mel unpacks the life-changing tool that millions of people around the world can’t stop talking about:

The Let Them Theory.

For the first time on the podcast since the book launched, Mel discusses Let Them, the global movement, and new ways to apply the theory.

Whether you’ve read the book or are new to this tool, today’s episode will give you perspectives and insights about The Let Them Theory that have never been shared before.

The Let Them Theory is here to remind you that the problem isn’t you; it’s the power you give to other people.

It has become a cultural sensation and a movement built on one idea:

When you stop trying to control other people, you finally take control of yourself.

In this conversation, Mel shares:

-4 things you’re not responsible for

-Why trying to make everyone else happy is a recipe for frustration

-The main reason some people never understand you – and why that’s OK

-The one-sentence way to set a powerful boundary

-Why the only person you need to prove yourself to is you

If you’ve spent too long chasing approval or taking on responsibility for everyone else, it’s time to protect your time and energy.

It’s time to stop letting other people hold you back.

It’s time to focus on what you can control: YOU.

Click here to get tickets to Mel's live tour, Let Them Tour 2026.

Get a copy of the The Let Them Theory book, which has sold 6.5 million copies.

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